Muah har har har har, sent parents off to Hong Kong this morning at 5:45am. They'll be gone till sunday evening or monday morning! :) eh? wat's this i feel on my head? They feel like horns! I feel empowered!!!! What will it be? BBQ weekend? Party weekend or just take it easy and chill. :) Well, stay tuned, we'll be right back with the programs ;)
So far, dinner tonite will be KFC in front of the TV and coffee with Andrew and gang at Chef & Brew.
Chong and Hiromi will be going to KL this weekend........should I?
Below is another interesting column I received in the mail. I'm beginning to wonder who is this James Lau that mysteriously started sending me these articles a couple of months back.
Life is all about loving
Life is all about loving. How come? Because loving is the Kingdom of God, for God is love. All of us look for the Kingdom of God here and now. We can have it if we love. Truly love.
Marriage is one area where we can make it into a Kingdom of God or a hell of a place here and now. It all depends on whether we have learned to love or not. There will always be disagreement, flare-up and conflict in the home. Have we learned to rise above them and continue to grow in love?
To be good at anything we have to spend time and effort studying and practising the topic. Similarly to be loving we need to know what is love. We should not confuse love with the Hollywood-type-of movie love. What then is love? True love at its very basic is":
Patient
Do I allow him/her to have his views, his mannerism, and his ways of doing things? Can I overlook his shortcomings or faults?
Will I be able to bear the blame and accusation?
Can I accept him as he is?
Kind
Do I have a kind heart towardshim/her?
Do I strive to make him happy?
Do I uplift his spirit when he is anxious or depressed?
Am I tender hearted towards him?
Forgiving
Mother Teresa says, “We must make our homes centers of compassion and forgive endlessly.” (“A Gift for God”, 18)
Do I try to forgive endlessly at home?
Do I harbor grudges over long period of time?
Do I hold on to resentment?
Do I keep a record of wrongs he has done to be used against him?
Do I tried to forgive and forget?
Self-giving
Do I sacrifice myself for him/her?
Am I generous towards him?
Can I give in to the relatively unimportant comments and arguments?
Do I give up my preferences, goals, comfort, time and energy for him?
Encouraging
Am I always an encourager or a critic towards him/her?
Do I affirm him?
Am I his cheer leader?
Do I look forward to his potential or do I see him as he is?
Do I constantly find ways to praise him?
Have we spent the time to cultivate and nurture these qualities or are we so engrossed with making a living that we don’t bother about such things? How then can we be good at loving?
Ultimately relationship, not what we achieved or acquired, is what matters most in life. So why do we allow our relationships to get the short end of the stick? When our schedules become overloaded, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationships require. What’s most important to us is replaced by what is most urgent.
When life on earth is ending, we don’t surround ourselves with objects. What we want around us is people---people we love and have relationships with.
In our final moments we all realize that relationships are what life is all about. Learning this truth sooner rather than later is wisdom. Why then wait until we are on our deathbed to figure out that nothing matters more than a loving relationship?
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My Random Thots:
Wow! Judging by these criterias, am I capable of love? I guess I can't answer that. Only people around me are qualified to answer that.
So far, dinner tonite will be KFC in front of the TV and coffee with Andrew and gang at Chef & Brew.
Chong and Hiromi will be going to KL this weekend........should I?
Below is another interesting column I received in the mail. I'm beginning to wonder who is this James Lau that mysteriously started sending me these articles a couple of months back.
Life is all about loving
Life is all about loving. How come? Because loving is the Kingdom of God, for God is love. All of us look for the Kingdom of God here and now. We can have it if we love. Truly love.
Marriage is one area where we can make it into a Kingdom of God or a hell of a place here and now. It all depends on whether we have learned to love or not. There will always be disagreement, flare-up and conflict in the home. Have we learned to rise above them and continue to grow in love?
To be good at anything we have to spend time and effort studying and practising the topic. Similarly to be loving we need to know what is love. We should not confuse love with the Hollywood-type-of movie love. What then is love? True love at its very basic is":
Patient
Do I allow him/her to have his views, his mannerism, and his ways of doing things? Can I overlook his shortcomings or faults?
Will I be able to bear the blame and accusation?
Can I accept him as he is?
Kind
Do I have a kind heart towardshim/her?
Do I strive to make him happy?
Do I uplift his spirit when he is anxious or depressed?
Am I tender hearted towards him?
Forgiving
Mother Teresa says, “We must make our homes centers of compassion and forgive endlessly.” (“A Gift for God”, 18)
Do I try to forgive endlessly at home?
Do I harbor grudges over long period of time?
Do I hold on to resentment?
Do I keep a record of wrongs he has done to be used against him?
Do I tried to forgive and forget?
Self-giving
Do I sacrifice myself for him/her?
Am I generous towards him?
Can I give in to the relatively unimportant comments and arguments?
Do I give up my preferences, goals, comfort, time and energy for him?
Encouraging
Am I always an encourager or a critic towards him/her?
Do I affirm him?
Am I his cheer leader?
Do I look forward to his potential or do I see him as he is?
Do I constantly find ways to praise him?
Have we spent the time to cultivate and nurture these qualities or are we so engrossed with making a living that we don’t bother about such things? How then can we be good at loving?
Ultimately relationship, not what we achieved or acquired, is what matters most in life. So why do we allow our relationships to get the short end of the stick? When our schedules become overloaded, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationships require. What’s most important to us is replaced by what is most urgent.
When life on earth is ending, we don’t surround ourselves with objects. What we want around us is people---people we love and have relationships with.
In our final moments we all realize that relationships are what life is all about. Learning this truth sooner rather than later is wisdom. Why then wait until we are on our deathbed to figure out that nothing matters more than a loving relationship?
_________________________________
My Random Thots:
Wow! Judging by these criterias, am I capable of love? I guess I can't answer that. Only people around me are qualified to answer that.
3 comments:
yes you are capable. everyone is. It's whether you allow yourself to be vulnerable to it, or not. However, everyone has their own way of dealing with this sensitive subject. All the best!
Why thank you :) but it's a work in progress and still far from the ideal isn't it.
to each his own. the ideal "love" appeals differently to each personality and individual. :)
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